I once heard an older man say that he had been in many relationships throughout his life, and that he had also been single a lot as well, and that the reasons he enjoyed being single had changed over the years. I can understand that. Your reason to enjoy singlehood when you are 20 may not be the same when you are 60, but there are some reasons to enjoy being single that come with any age.
5 Things You Can Always Appreciate About Being Single
If you are single, then you may want to take this time to really appreciate the following things.
1. You Can Flirt Without Guilt or Consequences
Everyone enjoys flirting! It’s fun, and it makes you feel attractive and giddy. It can give you butterflies and put a skip in your step.
Studies have shown that flirting can cause you to have higher white blood-cell counts, which increases your immunity, so flirting can actually be good for your health!
When you are single you feel a sort of abandon when it comes to flirting. You don’t have to limit yourself to just one person. You can flirt with whomever you want and you can reject whomever you want – just because you can!
You can enjoy someone touching you and sending shivers up your spine, and you can enjoy touching them back. That’s something you definitely can’t do when you are in a relationship – unless you are in an open relationship!
2. You Have Total Freedom!
You are in total charge of your day! You can do whatever you want, whenever you want, without having to answer to anyone except yourself.
If you want to do your laundry in the next city at 1:00 in the morning, you can. Nobody is going to question the stupidity of that!
Other great things are:
- Eating what you want when you want.
- Watching what you want when you want.
- Going to bed when you want without having to worry about being woken up by your partner coming to bed.
- Being able to go out with friends or family on a whim – because you’re the only person who you need to consult with!
Most people in happy relationships will tell you that their complete and total freedom is what they miss the most about being single. It’s the one thing that we all tend to enjoy in life – the freedom to make our own decisions and do our own thing.
3. You Have Your Own Space
You can kick your shoes off in the middle of the living room and stretch out on the couch.
You can lie sideways in the bed and know that everything on that bed is yours! Your pillow, your body-pillow, and your blanket! No sharing!
You can have things set up in your house and car just the way you like it without having to compromise with someone else’s preferences.
And best of all? You can walk around naked without worrying about what is jiggling or wiggling for someone else to see!
Your space is your own and you can do what you want with it. You can be messy or clean, colorful or black and white, and you can have furniture to match your personality and needs. It’s all about you!
4. Less Drama
You don’t have to put up with your partners inability to handle stress or crazy reactions to the littlest things. You don’t have to calm your partner down, lift your partner up, or comfort your partner in any way.
When you are in a relationship there can be a lot of excitement and crazy things going on because you are not just focused on your life, but you also have another life in the mix. But when you are single the only drama you create is with yourself, and it tends to be much less dramatic.
Another reason that more drama occurs in a relationship is because you can start to expect someone to be there for you and support you and help you fight your battles, and when they don’t you can get upset. You can stop fighting your own battles (like when you are single) and become a unit that depends on each other, to some extent, to be strong.
For example, there was a girl in a reality show who was extremely dramatic when her partner was around. She would cry, get emotional quicker, and cause fights when he was in the same area as her. But as soon as he left the show she was fine. She stopped crying, overreacting, and she became a normal drama-free person.
While this isn’t always true, it does happen quite often. And when you are single it’s guaranteed not to happen! Less drama equals less stress in your life, period.
5. It’s All About You
You don’t have to share the focus between your live and someone else’s. You don’t have to think about someone else’s day and problems they are having. You only have to focus on yourself and your day.
This is great for personal growth and figuring out who you REALLY are. You don’t have anyone influencing you about how you should act or what you should believe. You can just be free to become the person you want to be without having to conform or compromise.
This is why I believe being single for a while before settling down is a great idea. You get to really figure it all out without outside influence, and then you know who you are and where you are going and that allows you to find someone who compliments your path in life, instead of someone who tries to take you off of it.
Bottom line: You don’t settle when you know who you are, where you are going, and what you want in life.
So there you have it. 5 Great things about being single that stand true no matter what your age is. Don’t rush love if you haven’t found it yet, appreciate your singlehood and love will find you when you are ready.