When it comes to a first date, meeting at a coffee shop can be ideal. Although these dates may lack the intimacy of a dinner-and-a-movie, what they also lack is the pressures of meeting someone for the first time. The setting is neutral, the ambiance is warm and welcoming and usually the coffee is pretty tasty. Although usually pretty casual in nature, sharing a cup of joe is nerve racking nonetheless. Fortunately there are subtle things that can be done to make sure that your laidback, coffee shop date is flirty and fun. Here are a few coffee date tips to make the most of your date.
It may sound cheesy, but complimenting him or her on what they’re wearing is a great place to start. This establishes attraction right away and opens the door for some further flirtations. You don’t want to be openly drooling when he or she shows up, but a simple, “You look very cute today,” can go a long way. Like any first date, the first impression is crucial.
You want to come across interested and confident – be engaged and be responsive to what he or she is telling you and respond accordingly. If an opportunity for some light flirting arises, go for it, but never force it. As always, play it cool.
- Innocent compliments can open the door for further flirtations later.
- Don’t ever force flirting, play it cool and play off of your date.
Gift of Gab
Some people are inherently blessed with the gift of gab, other people aren’t so lucky. If you’re one of those that has trouble holding a conversation, a coffee date may prove to be quite difficult. Unlike a more traditional date where you can loosen up with a cocktail or two, the coffee date is all about attentiveness and flow. Consider how you feel after a couple cups of coffee, odds are your heart rate will have increased and your energy levels will also be a little ramped up.
Don’t let this irk your nerves and prevent you from talking, instead, use this boost to your advantage and share some insight on the art on the walls or a movie you saw recently. Avoid small talk by asking meaningful, open questions. This doesn’t mean pry into your date’s personal life, but if the conversation does get a little heavy, assure your date is comfortable opening up and lend an understanding ear. Conversational skills on a coffee date are a commodity, so don’t be afraid to speak up, or better yet, listen.
- Without the gift of gab, coffee dates can prove to be difficult.
- Coffee dates are all about attentiveness and flow.
- Use the boost from your coffee to complement your conversational skills.
Make it Fun
Coffee shops can be chaotic but they are often fairly tranquil. Rather than grabbing a drink at a bar and suffering through the noise and smell of alcohol, coffee dates offer a mellow alternative. But, if you’re type of person that enjoys large crowds and loud noise, a coffee shop can be alienating.
Don’t let this stifle your game, if anything it’s up to you to make it fun. Grab a board game or deck of cards from the barista and challenge your date to a friendly competition. Games at coffee shops are always a blast and will definitely stir up some conversation between you and your date.
- Coffee shops are chaotic, but often fairly tranquil.
- If you’re a rambunctious person, don’t feel like you have to be boring.
- Grab a board game and challenge your date to a friendly competition.