As you may know from my previous post, I am a new single father. My wife and I are currently seperated and headed toward divorce.
My oldest is four and she is having a very hard time adjusting to the new situation. After a recent parent/teacher conference, the teacher mentioned that she has “definately noticed a difference in my daughter but, would have never guessed that was going on”. That being the seperation, I can only assume.
When I was told this, I felt like I have failed my child. While I stand by my decision to seperate, recent thoughts have suggested I try to work it out…for the sake of my kids.
My youngest, 1 1/2, has her moments but overall doesn’t seem to care. Probably because she is 1 1/2.
I brought this up to my wife, mentioning that I would consider counseling to try to mend the fence that apparently “I” destroyed. I was expected a response much different that the one I received.
Up until this point, I have been going with the old additive “Kill them with Kindness”. Anytime something has broken or gone wrong, I have dropped what I was doing and went and took care of it. I have known that she has made an attempt to “move on” with her life. I have kept my opinions and feelings to myself. My honest opinion is that it is rather soon, which brings up other questions that I have.
I don’t know where to go from here. I’m coming off my first full weekend with my kids. They stayed with me at my place and we had a great time. We played and watched kid shows all weekend. (Not sure how much more Sofia the First I can take). It was very hard to take them home. Putting my oldest to bed, at her house, was very difficult. She didn’t want me to leave, but I knew I had to.