If you’re a parent, then I can pretty much guarantee that there’s been at least one instance since the birth of your child that you just wanted to slap the sense into someone. A stranger said something to you that made you stop, think for a moment, and debate either telling them off or slapping them across the face.
Hopefully you didn’t (slap them), but sometimes we do need to remind people (society) there are boundaries.
In the spirit of being politically correct and polite, we as parents hold our tongues on many occasions where we’d really prefer to speak our mind. Today, I’d like to voice a few of those opinions, because sometimes we just need to let some of “it” out.
“…but they’re NOT your kids!”
It seems like everyone has some type of advice to give when it comes to parenting. You know the drill: “Well, if they were MY kids, I wouldn’t let them just run around in their diaper all day. I’d do this, that, and the other.”
Well, guess what? They’re not your kids. If I ask for your advice, fine. Then it’s on me. However, unsolicited and unwarranted tidbits of your personal wealth of wisdom do nothing but annoy me. If you want to come live with them 24/7 and test out your theories, be my guest. Otherwise, how about you mind your own business?Parents to society: '...but they're not YOUR kids! Click To Tweet
“I’m really not that impressed.”
It’s only natural for people to be proud of their children and want to brag about their accomplishments. I know you’ve seen the “My child made the honor roll at …” bumper stickers, too. That’s totally fine.
Yes, we’re proud of our kids. But, we’ve all encountered those parents who seem to define their own existence by how far ahead of the curve their child is.
How smart they are…compared to everyone else.
Or how tall they are…compared to everyone else.
Or how this or that they are…compared to everyone else.
Oh, and they’re not afraid to tell us ALLLLLLL about it!
Really, it’s great that your child was writing novels at the age of four. I suspect some form of emotional abuse is at hand, but maybe you really do have a child prodigy on your hands. I’m just ecstatic when my 11-year-old uses a broom and dust pan on occasion to clean up a spill without me having to remind him.
If you want to brag, that’s fine. Just do it and move on. Do you want to listen to my hour-long rendition of when the baby learned to go “number 2” all by himself? I didn’t think so.Parents to other parents: 'I'm really not that impressed.' #Parenting #Opinion Click To Tweet
“Have your own kids and then you can give me advice on how to parent.”
So you, without children of your own, think that my swatting little Bobby on the bottom was excessive. Fine. Keep it to yourself, though, ok?
When you have to deal with a two-year-old’s emotional breakdown in a very public store and you manage to get his attention without some sort of physical stimulus, then you can judge me. Until then, be grateful that I’m a parent who won’t tolerate that kind of behavior.
I’m not condoning abuse, but children need discipline and I don’t need you telling me how to parent. Especially when you don’t have kids of your own.Parents on advice, 'Have your own kids and then you can give me advice on how to parent.' #Parenting #Opinion Click To Tweet
“Yes, I am aware that they actually grow.”
“Treasure these moments because they don’t last forever.” I know my babies won’t be babies forever. I know one day I’ll look back and wish I’d spent more time hugging, cuddling, and playing when they still thought I was the greatest person on earth. I think that feeling may almost be inevitable no much how much time I spent with them.
No wait, that’s not true. There is such a thing as “too much time.”
Anyway – my life is not a sitcom. There are bills to pay, errands to be run, cleaning and cooking to do, and bad moods that occasionally surface. I am not Ghandi, and I’m not going to make myself crazy trying to be.
My kids are happy, well-balanced, and healthy. It doesn’t make me a monster when their disobedience angers me and their hyperactivity annoys me. It makes me a parent. A real parent.Parents on nostalgia, 'Yes, I am aware they actually grow.' #Parenting #Kids #Opinion Click To Tweet